Thursday, February 21, 2013

When adults need a chore chart

During my freshman year at Bethel University, a room of girls down the hall had a chore chart that never ceased to amaze me. It was full of color coded stars and other reward stickers. I thought it was absolutely ridiculous, but wasn't surprised considering some of the girls that lived there. (One girl literally told me I was a sinner for reading Twilight/Harry Potter and boasted that she dressed modestly for Jesus and her future husband. Oh, and she apparently was some Native American princess. I call bullshit.) Anyways, me making fun of them and their precious chore chart has come back to bite me in the ass. Why? Because the newest addition to the Bon-Bon household is now a chore chart. 


When I first got married, my boss told me that chores would be the number one thing we would argue about.  He was right. Ryan and I grew up on opposite ends of the chore spectrum. Meaning I had none and his dad would just about freak out on him if he did so much as leave a light on. (That makes his dad sound worse than he is, I promise he's a great man.) Personally, I think it has a lot to do with my parents being neat freaks. My mom's a neat freak when it comes to design and organization, and my step father is when it comes to germs. And neither one cared to have me to do any of it because, duh, I'd just mess it up. So doing chores just never clicked for me. I never thought to do them because they were always done for me. (Again, that sounds worse than it is.) 

Flash forward to today. Ryan's been just about trained to be a compulsive cleaner and I don't think about cleaning at all. You can see how this would create some tension. (For him, of course, not for me. I'm perfectly find lounging around watching Real Housewives while Sir Charles does laundry and dishes, I haven't known it to be any other way.) So now, after eight months of Ryan harassing me to do something, I marched my ass to Target and got a chore chart. We now have assigned chores, to be completed on assigned days. This also works really well for me because I can't stand having people tell me what to do. The chore chart makes it seem like it's more my decision to do it. Not to mention, I'm a total rule follower and love lists, so the chore chart really speaks to me. 

Allow me to reintroduce myself: My name is Sammantha and I an advocate for chore charts and hereby retract any statements made about how ridiculous it is for grown people to have them. Please forgive me, for I have sinned. 

What's the 411 on chores in your house?
-- Samm

13 comments:

Leah said...

well I'm divorced. so i'm not going to say it was because of the lack of chore chart... but maybe it was!? Pretty much neither of us cleaned ever. Which was cool until ppl were coming over. then we'd do that chaos freak out cleaning which is always like 6 hrs of nonstop cleaning and panic. the ex is now with a new lady who loves to cook and clean (see why he and I weren't meant to be?) and here I am, still doing chaos cleaning when someone's coming over. I think I need a chore chart too. probably would make my life 8000x better.

Angie Lawlar said...

HAHAHA!!! That was awesome :) I don't have a chore chart, I just love to clean...especially when I'm mad, some of my best work comes from when I'm pissed off ;)

Holly said...

We argue a lot about chores, too! Neither one of us had to do that many when we were growing up, and I admit I was always a little on the lazy side. But since I've developed ocd and panic attacks, I filter stress different and I am a germaphobe on top of that so I clean the apt. like crazy. My husband, on the other hand, NEVER DOES! UGH. I need help!!! Something. ANYTHING! lol. My mom was a neat freak and the house was always clean. So I think once I figured out that nobody was keeping my house spotless, and I was used to that environment, I stepped up to become the neat freak. I don't really mind to clean, either, but I am really really busy and just want my husband to be considerate enough to help out at least a little! :)

Ashley from The Kitchen-Sink Chronicles said...

I live alone and I still need a chore chart!

shannon said...

OK - my dad literally forced chores on me - which is why i think now it's mainly about me rebelling and being an adult and all like "DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO SHITLER, YOU'RE NOT MY FATHER."

BUT - now that my house has been clean for like a week i will admit that it's a lot less stressful to have to chaos clean like leah does. which i'm all too familiar with.

can we please see a picture of said chore chart? kthanksbye.

Adrienne Rose said...

Husband keeps threatening to implement a chore chart ("cleaning schedule") because I am a horrible house wife (my words, not his). I am terrified. Hahahah

Ashley McCardia said...

I don't have a chore chart for myself...addie has one...but I do write a list every morning of what needs done. Nothing wrong with keeping yourself in line! eventually it will become habit :))

Kenzie Smith said...

I had chores growing up and hated every second of it.. So being grown up I am horrible with chores. A chore chart would do us a world of good!!

Lindsey @ Life on Countryside said...

I'm divorced...maybe we needed a chore chart? I was Sir Charles while he sat around playing video games.
I need a chore chart now for my roommate!

Erin said...

Haha this is amazing! I'm not married so I couldn't give two craps but I think you should just tell Sir Charles that Real Housewives beats dishes any day. And I am the EXACT same way about people telling me to do things. I get real heated when that happens.

Kristin W said...

oh gosh. We tried the chore chart around here and it didn't work so well. For me, when I stopped being so damn lazy and doing a little more, we've come to a happy medium. Chores still suck, but eh works for us for now. But I TOTALLY know the feeling!

Alli @ Allena Mistral said...

This is EXACTLY how it is with my and my Ryan! I HATE cleaning, but when I do, it usually ends up being a deep clean, so it takes me a full day to actually do a full cleaning. He gets frustrated because I don't do it more often. Maybe a chore chart would be a good plan!

Wink said...

I'm a little late to this post, but I'm scouring the web for precisely this! I work from home, which translates to
Me: I'm surrounded all day long 850 things that need cleaning
Him: You're home all day, YOU clean it
Clearly, this is not a sustainable division of labor.

6 months in, is your chore schedule still working for you? If so, can you share with us a photo of how you've broken it down?